Sometimes I lose my cool with my kids. They like to push me to my breaking point daily. Well sometimes even hourly. So often I ask the Lord to strengthen me. I ask for Him to show me how to have grace and patience with them. I will give myself the morning pep talk after my morning prayers. It helps me to get motivated for the day.
So I will start waking the kids up one at a time. This is always my first test of patience in the morning. My son will get up easily, but then there's my oldest daughter who is six. She whines, groans, kicks and yells, everyday like clock work. I know she is going to behave this way, so you would think that by now it would be a breeze to handle. Well it isn't. Every day I have to take a deep breath and ask the Lord for help. By the time my daughter is done having her morning tantrums it is time to get my son dressed. As soon as I tell him it is time to get dressed it is melt down city. My son is the definition of a home body. So again I am asking the Lord to just give me grace. "Please Lord, help me, please!" And so as we fight through our morning rituals, going through my mind is, "why is the Lord taking so long to give me grace with my kids?"
But how easy would it be for the Lord to just immediately give us grace and patience. What would we ever learn if we were never put in a situation that called for us to demonstrate our faith by obedience. Peter tells us in 1 Peter 1:6-7, "In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while, if need be, you have been grieved by various trials, that the genuineness of your faith, being much more precious than gold that perishes though it is tested by fire, may be found to praise, honor, and glory at the revelation of Jesus Christ."
I forget so often that when we ask for things like strength, patience, and grace, God will then put you in situations where you have to practice being strong, having patience, and loving with the grace of God. So now as the kids continue to push me and test my breaking points, I take a deep breath, and approach the situation with the grace of God in mind. With the joy of the Holy Spirit and the love of God, I can be graceful and patient with my kids.
"But He knows the way I take; when He has tested me, I shall come forth as gold.” - Job 23:10