I came into marriage not really understanding the concept of being a "helpmeet". Life was still about what I wanted and what I wanted to accomplish. That turned out to be very destructive over the years; There was a point where things were in shambles, but God started turning me towards being a helpmeet in action.
Now we have come to a season where we are as polarized on certain things as the nation is on politics. I have been trying to just give my opinion. The problem is that my husband already knows my opinion and my opinion at this point is destroying more than helping.
God has brought me to 1 Samuel 24:1-12, 15-22 about David in the caves and King Saul chasing to kill him.
1 Samuel 24:3-6 say this:
"So he Saul came to the sheep folds by the road, where there was a cave; and Saul went in to attend his needs (David and his men were staying in the recesses of the cave). Then the men of David said to him, "This is the day of which the Lord said to you, Behold I will deliver your enemy into your hand, that you may do to him as it seems good to you. And David arose and secretly cut off a corner of Sauls robe. Now it happened afterward that Davids heart troubled him because he had cut Sauls robe. And he said to his men, "The Lord forbid that I should do this thing to my master, the Lords anointed, to stretch out my hand against him, seeing he is the anointed of the Lord"."
David knew in his heart he was not to orchestrate the events that would move him on to the next season. A season of kingship! I feel I am in the caves like David. It's a hard season of letting go of interests and identity that are from the flesh. Like David it is not my place to strategize how short I can make this season of learning to be a helpmeet, not focused on self.
Then, David confronted Saul and let Saul know what had happened.
1 Samuel 24:17-21 is Sauls response. David was able to show Saul he was not out to further himself. Anything that happened would be because of Gods will! I have the choice to learn about being a genuine helpmeet from the heart. God has shown me this is what He desires! My other alternative is to try to alter things to my advantage and comfort. In this season I believe it would be to early to go directions that may ultimately be God's revealed will. If we went that direction now we would be ill equipped, walking towards temptation and towards distractions, leading away from God and giving glory to self.
In conclusion, God has shown me His hands are on the situation, so I will choose to trust!