In the past while the Lord has been speaking to my heart about prayer, encouragement and support toward others. These 3 things have always been weaknesses of mine. I am more of a get it done type of person so actually acknowledging and meditating on seasons that other people are going through is not something that even close comes natural for me since in a lot of these cases I can’t be helpful in a physical way. My natural tendency is to assume that because prayer is the only way I can be helpful to someone that it’s not enough, that there must also be a physical aspect to being there for them. I think it’s simply a matter of humility. I need to learn over and over again to put down my pride and go back to the truth of God’s word and promises. Galatians chapter 6 is rich with how we are to be toward others, specifically verse 2:
“Carry each others burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ”
Encouragement and I have always had a love-hate relationship. I like it when other people encourage me and try to give grace when their encouragement is actually extremely discouraging but every time I try to encourage someone I feel like I just make it worse. At this point, I just smile and pat them on the back and try to be a good listener. And other times I make the unwise decision of opening my mouth. But Philippians 2:3-4 says:
“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others."
To know what to pray, I need to ask God for help. To be able to encourage someone correctly, I need to ask God for help. A proper encouragement would be God giving a word of wisdom or knowledge for that person. To be able to properly support someone physically, emotionally, mentally, or physically I need to ask God for help. The Bible makes it clear that we should always be asking God for wisdom. He is a loving Father who is more than happy to give it.
James 3:17 But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.
This verse is so perfect. These are all topics that are struggles when it comes to supporting others. Gods wisdom is pure. A lot of times supporting others is hard because our heart toward them may not be pure. We might be judging them. IMPARTIAL. Don’t even get me started on the impartial junk. To say it’s difficult to support someone you don’t get along with is hard would be a grave understatement. And Sincerity. Most of the time people can sense insincerity. These struggles are the result when I try to encourage and support without the Spirit of God.